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by: Tanna Phares
This article is a valuable resource for moms who are seeking to increase their
happiness index. Continue reading to learn how to beat stress and remain happy
moms. Click below on the link to take you to my free Everlasting Happiness
Newsletter.
We live in a wonderful time, full of experience and opportunity. However,
amongst the great freedom we enjoy, we suffer from increased stress, especially
as parents, and a feeling of continually having to keep up with the Jones’s.
This push will eventually seep us of our carefree happiness and rob us of our
desire to be happy moms. Living life is hard enough without the added pressure
to be the perfect mother, providing our children with just the right amounts of
structure, flexibility, discipline, and leisure.
Everyone has input for parents, everyone has advice and council galore to help
us along our journey. Articles, blogs, books, even entire TV shows are dedicated
to guiding parents in the right direction. This is all a tremendous help and
support, and we all know there are a ton of parents who desperately need this,
but where does all this “help” leave us? My understanding is that many mothers
now feel they must always live up to these standards and display perfect
parenting techniques at all times or else they’ll be harshly judged and found
wanting.
Not only is this a concern but many mothers also feel pressure to put on a happy
face and give the appearance of loving motherhood completely and eternally
regardless of whatever mishap may be taking place with their children. This is
ridiculous! Yet true. I have listened to many mothers share this exact
sentiment, they feel a need to pretend motherhood is the key to happiness, the
best way to raise your happiness index, the only way to experience everlasting
bliss and joy. Well, yes, motherhood can and does offer all of these feelings,
but not all the time. Motherhood is not always pretty or fun or even desirable.
The expectation mothers may have of being a perfectly happy, perfectly content,
perfectly suited mother is unrealistic. My parental advice to anyone
experiencing this unattainable longing for perfection or to anyone suffering
from societal pressure to be the perfect parent is to find (quickly!) someone
you can be real with, someone you can let your guard down with, someone who will
not raise a judgmental finger at you.
The key to happiness is to feel comfortable in our own skin. If we cannot find a
kindred spirit to be ourselves with we will never truly be happy moms. We need
an ally, a buddy, a BFF who will let us express our emotions and better yet,
understand and relate to them. Motherhood is not all roses and butterflies.
Motherhood is jam-packed full of every single emotion in existence. We feel it
all. We experience it all, highs and lows and everything in between. We need to
rely others who realize this and will let us relax and share our negative
feelings when they arise.
I love being a mother, yet there are plenty of times my kids drive me completely
crazy and I have no idea what to do with them, or myself in order to regain my
happiness and some semblance of control. Why is it so difficult for some parents
to admit this? Why do some mothers pretend to find enduring and all consuming
happiness from their children every second of every day? This is never going to
happen so please do not try to relay this to the world. You will still be
accepted and liked by others even if you feel like an utter failure at times.
You are not alone.
So release the pressure to be perfect and allow yourself to be human. Strive
towards perfection, sure, but know you will make mistakes along the way, and
this is ok. Your happiness will surely increase and you will be much happier as
a mom.
There is so much more to discover in this journey to everlasting happiness. This
is just the very beginning. To learn more about how you can be happy as a woman
and happy as a mother every day, sign up for my Everlasting Happiness Newsletter
at http://www.happymombook.com. It’s FREE!
About The Author
Tanna Phares is an author and a mother of three young children. She helps women
across the globe find enduring happiness in their lives as mothers. You can
learn more about her by visiting http://www.littlemamabiglife.blogspot.com/
The author invites you to visit:
http://www.happymombook.com
Article Source: http://www.articlecity.com/articles/parenting/article_2409.shtml
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